Showing posts with label online-dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label online-dating. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Online dating and race at OKCupid

This recent post on the OKCupid blog has been widely linked, but since I covered this previously, at some length (also related), I feel obligated to post it.

If you have any interest in this subject, you'll no doubt read the whole thing, but if you need any further suasion, here are the key figures. Reply rates by race when men send messages...


...and reply rates by race when women send messages...

Read it and weep. (Or rejoice, I suppose, if you're in the favored classes and you guiltlessly enjoy racial privilege.)

BTW yes, they controlled for algorithmic match rate, which is essentially flat across all race/gender combinations (see the "Match % by Race" figure in the original post).

As usual, I find the result itself sad — I think this goes far beyond a moderate amount of understandable homophily (look at the diagonals!) — but what I find much more sad is the degree of self-deception that people engage in when discussing these results. Unfairness is annoying; deception about unfairness really brings on the facepalm.

See, for example, the 459-comment Metafilter thread, where about half the educated, literate, liberal MeFi crowd doesn't seem to get the following simple proposition: although diversity of aesthetic preferences, including preference for racially marked features, may be a simple personal choice, systematic statistical skew in aesthetic preferences across a large population strongly indicates socialization to racially biased standards of attractiveness.

Note, by the way, that racial preferences don't mean merely visual discrimination. The degree of racial discrimination is considerably stronger and more widespread for women than men, even though (as folk wisdom has it) women are less visually focused than men. (Personally, I think folk wisdom overstates this sex difference, but I do think it's real.) I think this implies that part of the racial discrimination effect — possibly even the dominant part — is due to people making assumptions about personality or character based on race, rather than preference for a certain physical appearance alone. Which is even more damning.

Standard caveats w.r.t. all such social science analyses apply blah blah blah. On the other hand, the fact that this result essentially replicates, at finer granularity, the results of the Hitsch et al. study I blogged previously, as well as anecdotal evidence gathered from friends and acquaintances, does not incline me to skepticism.

Friday, April 07, 2006

Economists empirically analyze online dating (reactions to Hitsch et al. 2005)

So, Günter J. Hitsch, Ali Hortaçsu, and Dan Ariely have a paper that empirically analyzes correlations between posted characteristics and success rates in online dating. A lot of you have probably seen this already, because UC Berkeley economist Hal Varian had a little writeup in the Times about a year ago, but I ran across it recently somehow (blog post, perhaps? Lost in the foggy mists of my browser's history...).

Anyway, as Varian suggests, it's mostly an exercise in confirming common sense, but not entirely. Of course, it is actually valuable to have your common sense examined empirically once in a while, so I heartily encourage you to skim the paper's results yourself, but I'm going to pull out a few results that aren't entirely obvious from (my) common sense.

First, here's Hitsch et al.'s chart correlating body mass index (BMI) for men (left) and women (right) with response rate.

It's no surprise that women benefit more from being thinner, but I think it's really interesting that the response rate peaks at such an extremely low BMI. The authors report that the peak BMI is about 17, which corresponds to an underweight, "supermodel" figure. It is, of course, commonplace for feminists to remark that American society has unrealistically thin body expectations for women. A lot of men believe that this is an expectation perpetuated mostly by women's fashion magazines. Whenever you bring up the body image issue, online or off-, some man will say something like: "Well, I don't prefer stick-thin women. Slim, yes, but not bony like a fashion model." I mean, I'm a man who believes something like that. Yet I look at the chart above and I wonder.

Now, the caveats. First, it's possible that the results arise from men's misunderstanding how a numeric weight translates to an actual feminine figure. After all, the men are only reading a number, not looking at bodies (I'm assuming the profile photo's usually a head shot, rather than a full-length bikini beach photo). For example, I weigh about 155 lbs, and I assume that a slender woman my height would weigh somewhat less, but I'm not really sure whether 135 lbs would be emaciated or merely thin. Second, the economists find that women are probably lowballing their self-reported weight: "Among women, we find that the average stated weight is less than the average weight in the U.S. population. The discrepancy is about 6 lbs among 20-29 year olds, 18 lbs among 30-39 year olds, and 20 lbs among 40-49 year olds." --- so either the personals users are exceptionally fit, or they're lying. Men might know this, and compensate by mentally adding a few pounds to whatever the profile reads, hence their preference for exceptionally low (reported) BMI.

However, in spite of these caveats, I think the evidence suggests that the ideal towards which so many women strive is, to some extent, a rational judgment about men's aggregate weight preferences. It's true that people can be attracted to potential partners who don't attain that ideal. But that doesn't mean that more people wouldn't be more attracted, on average, to someone who's closer to that ideal.

OK, enough with the weight. Let's look at the ethnicity findings. In my opinion, these are the most interesting findings in the paper. Money, education, looks, weight, age? Everybody basically agrees and accepts that people discriminate based on these factors; they reflect differences in character, in lifestyle, or in plain sex appeal. But race and ethnicity are stickier issues. It's not clear whether it's really acceptable in polite society to admit that, given a choice between a good-looking white man and an equally good-looking black man, with the exact same job and income, you would really prefer to date the white man. Is that a form of racism, or not? Is that the same as men preferring blondes (an actual finding that, incidentally, also emerges in the study), or is it something different?

Anyway, here's Hitsch et al. 5-10:

This figure requires a bit of explanation. The charts on the left indicate who women emailed, and the charts on the right indicate who men emailed. These are so-called "first contact" emails, meaning that these are the preferences of initiators, not responders. (This is a pretty big source of asymmetry, since men are usually initiators. In fact, 54.5% of men received zero first contacts. For men, it would be more interesting to track "first responses" to emails sent.) The labels on the vertical axis indicate the ethnicity of the person emailed. For each of the four ethnicities --- white, black, Hispanic, and Asian --- the rate at which the emailer emails his/her own ethnicity is considered the baseline rate. The labels on the horizontal axis describe how much less (or more) probable each ethnicity is to receive a first contact email, compared to the baseline. (I assume the pink bars are confidence intervals.)

So, what's the result? All men and women of all ethnicities prefer their own ethnicity. That's straightforward enough and can be explained by basic homophily or whatever, although the strength of the preference is pretty startling to me: most groups have at least a roughly 1/4 disadvantage relative to baseline, and often more. I guess I'm naïve, but I would have hoped for closer to 5% than to 50%.

More interesting than the strength of the preference, however, are the differences among the groups. Some of the confidence intervals run pretty wide, so some individual charts have to be taken with a big grain of salt, but you can still see broad trends. For example, women across the board have much stronger ethnic preferences (or biases, if you like) than men. Also, Asian men and women alike seem to prefer whites significantly to any other non-Asian ethnic group, but whites do not return the preference, ranking Asians last or next-to-last. In fact, Asian men do pretty badly overall, coming in no better than a 75% diminished preference by any other ethnic group (and apparently getting zero emails from Hispanic women). Finally, based on my completely unscientific eyeballing of the charts, for whites and Asians, men and women seem to have preference profiles with similar "shapes" --- that is, the women's ethnic preferences are stronger, but their relative preferences are similar to men's --- but for blacks and Hispanics the men and women seem to diverge.

But even more interesting than any of that is Fig. 5-11:

This is the difference between (white) people who admit they have ethnic preferences, and those who claim that they don't. Note my verbs, because although there's a statistical difference, the curves have the same similar shapes (UPDATE: see comments), and the ethnic preference remains strong in the latter group --- greater than 50% for women, and in the ballpark of 15-50% for men.

I think that chart almost speaks for itself, so I'll keep my remarks brief. Is this caused by unconscious bias? Perhaps. Or maybe it's like lying about your weight. I know that if I saw that a woman's profile had an ethnic preference --- any preference, even for my own ethnicity --- I probably wouldn't want to email her. By not listing a preference, one signals one's open-mindedness.

Finally, to end on a lighter note, here's Fig. 5-7, the result that's probably most relevant to the people who read this blog --- educational attainment and response rates:

Look at the highest data point in first contacts for men. That's right guys, chicks dig grad students.

Well, OK, back to reality. Clearly, the "in post-graduate program" results for men are a fluke arising from the fact that the category lumps together professional students with Ph.D. grad students. Law, medicine, and business students are training for lucrative careers as highly esteemed members of society. Ph.D. grad students are training to be credentialed professional nerds. As much as I wish that most women found the latter attractive, I have to admit that it is, shall we say, a distinctly minority taste.

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Peer review for your personality

A while ago, one of my friends (given how pissy and obnoxious I've been lately, I won't shame my friends by linking them here) linked to an online Johari Window app.

This meme's been making the rounds for a while, but most such apps have been limited by a lack of anonymity and excessive segregation of negative and positive traits. Recently, another acquaintance of mine whipped out his mad web hacking skills and threw together realpersonality.com, which seems clearly superior to the standard Johari apps if you're into that sort of thing.

Now, at this point I am put in a slightly awkward position, because truthfully I'm not all that curious what people think about me --- on the one hand, I think I have a pretty good handle on it, and on the other hand, I'm self-directed enough that I don't care that much. But, it's odd for me to recommend this to people if I don't use it myself. So, go to town if you like.

Incidentally, it's illuminating to consider the relationship between these apps and the likes of Hot or Not. The comparison suggests a couple of followup directions:

  • Add ratings of physical characteristics. (Duh.)

  • Bootstrap a dating service on top of the personality evaluator. Possibly mix in some kind of social networking/reputation system to reduce the risk of collusion attacks. This seems challenging, because there's an inherent tension between reputation systems and anonymity.

  • Conversely, add anonymous peer review to an existing matchmaking service. This would help solve an obvious problem with online socialization sites: you can put a profile on Friendster or Match.com or whatever, but the only feedback occurs when somebody's interested enough to send you a message, which is pretty coarse-grained and opaque. You have no idea what impression you're making on readers who don't contact you. You can ask friends to review your profile, but their reactions may differ radically from the reactions of people who don't already know you.

    Imagine a site where users could anonymously mark a profile with key adjectives, without actually contacting the person. One suspects that people would learn what works and doesn't work much more rapidly.

    It's interesting to speculate about the effects this would have. Would all profiles recede rapidly towards a mean of inoffensive blandness? Would people stay with the service longer, because they'd be getting better dates? Would they get alienated by the negative feedback and leave sooner? Or would they more rapidly meet the partner of their dreams, and leave sooner for that reason? In any case, while they're using the service, it seems likely that people would visit the site more frequently, because they'd be getting more frequent feedback --- which would be good for an ad-supported site, but bad for one supported only by user fees.